Thanks to 50 Shades of Grey bondage is becoming more and more popular. lots of people are looking to spice up their sex lives by embracing the restraints. It’s hot because of the element of danger, but the extreme naughtiness of bondage play can put some people off. Sex, of all kinds, is all about having fun, so here’s a rough guide to bondage, in a fun and safe way.
First off, it’s very important to be safe. The dangers involved should only imaginary, and there should be mutual consent from both ends. In 50 Shades there was a notorious bit about a contract of ownership. If you use one of these you should understand it’s not legally binding!
Legally binding, that’s an apt way to put it. By all means use bondage restraints, but do so in a mutually consensual (legal) and safe manner. Safewords are an important protection. These are words that are spoken when you want your partner to stop what they’re doing, and should be decided on beforehand.
Restraints are just one part of bondage. You can also use blindfolds for sensory deprivation. This works, because it heightens the other senses, especially the sense of touch. You can use blindfolds along with sex toys for a very sensual, tactile experience.
Some level of play violence can also be fun. Essentially we’re talking about spanking, and you can use paddles or whips. Of course this is “play violence” and at no point should you cross any pre-determined lines. There might be a fine line between sex and violence when we’re talking about bondage but that line should remain squarely in place.
